WhatFundamental Flaws of Men are at The Root of Women`s Plight?
Thefight by women and men for equality of the two genders has not begunnow and it is not anywhere near the end. Many researchers and writershave done a lot to reveal the differences between the two genders andhow they are upheld even in the modern society of most developednations. Margaret Fuller, born Sarah Margaret Fuller was a writerwhose work during her time led to some of the fights for equality wesee going on today. Having been raised by a strict father, she grewto be a great essayist, with works that changed minds and swayedopinions. In some of her works, she writes about the weaknesses ofmen that cause all plight that women go through in life. Her own lifeexperience is a true example of what women go through in the hands ofgodlike men (Fuller n.p).
Accordingto Mehren (17), Margaret was always kept “on the stretch” by herimpatient father who always wanted her to meet his high standards inliteracy, although it always exhausted her. She became anxious toplease his father no matter what she had to do. She became an objectto her father, always doing what she was told and not having to sayanything. She endured all her suffering from the demanding fatherjust to be a good daughter. The daily demands of the father deniedher a chance to become independent and build her own individuality.She always had to do what she was told without much questioning ordispute. Timothy Fuller was always expecting the best from the womenin his family and never had the patience to wait for them to do it.Failing to do what he expected always made him angry and furious(Mehren 17-9). Later on, Margaret writes that she always feltdeprived of her father’s love despite all the attention that heshowered her with. Margaret thinks that her father thought of her asa son or an extension of himself, and it is the reason he educatedher so much. He always wanted her to achieve more than he did in herlife.
Menare proud and ego-filled creatures Fuller (n.p). Fuller reveals theboastful nature of boys in a story in which boys perform somethingthat they think is only meant for boys. In that way, they engendercertain activities as only capable of being done by boys and notgirls. Such statement include "Girls can`t do that girls can`tplay ball." They imply that ball can only be played by boys andnot girls. How is this a problem for women? The problem comes whenwomen receive a bad reaction from men and even fellow women for doingthings that are traditionally meant to be for men. The laughter andbad reaction that comes afterwards demoralizes and pushes women intothe corners never to rise again. The engendering of activities suchas careers and professions thus continues as men take a lot of pridein what they do while pushing women back into the kitchen. The prideof men also comes with jealous towards any woman that goes againstthe norms and breaks it through into a profession or field previouslydominated by men. Like in the case of Timothy, Margaret’s father,he became worried when he later on learned that he had educatedMargaret in formal ways without sticking to the traditional norms(Fuller n.p). Norms that required women to understand and take careof kitchen and household chores. Margaret had only been educated inlanguages, history, biography, and other fields that had nothing todo with household duties norms (Margaret n.p).
Angeralways drove conversations in Timothy Fuller’s house. He was alwaysangry at women in his household who fell short of the expectations hehad of them. An example is when Timothy threatened to take Margaretto work in a factory if she did not behave as she was expected. Thethreat came after her mother wrote to her father about her continualteasing and running off to Boston when she was needed to be at home.Her mother was also under obligation to report any minute thing thathappened in the house while the father was away working (Mehren 20Capper n.p). Failing to report would make Timothy very angry. Thefear of anger that accompanies ‘misbehaving’ drives women intocomplacency at all times. Therefore, they cannot reach out for moreto satisfy their real needs. Men in women’s lives assume acontrolling position that is guided by anger and threats.
Inconclusion, Margaret Fuller was a subject of man’s dominance duringher tender age. Her father was controlling and his weaknesses alwaysmade Margaret sad and always confined within certain expectations.Even in the midst of all the monitoring and attention she receivedfrom her father, she later feels that she never received fatherlylove. Instead, the attention was just a source of plight in her life.
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